Surprise Surprise
I had been thinking lately that I'm happy with my relationship with Malibu Ken right now. Even though there are no clear labels, I really have nothing to complain about.
Which is why I hate myself for being stupid and trying to push him to see how far he'll go. A very wise woman once said something along the lines of, "Don't mess things up by being insecure."
Wednesday night I pushed. For someone reason I decided to pick a small fight, which escalated into something more intense and I said slightly bitchy things. I was simply sad that he has been away on business and is going to a bachelor party this weekend in New Jersey. We all know that bachelor parties can quickly turn crazy (hello Mario Lopez?!?). However, the emotion I expressed was not sadness - it came out as insecurity. I don't know why I create this drama. Not to go all Carrie Bradshaw on you all (but it's so applicable right now), do we need drama to make a relationship work?
I've learned that in this case no. I found a wonderful guy who cares about me and knows when to say he's sorry. I also need to remember that I need to say sorry and check myself whenever I feel an insecure fit coming on. I'm a lucky girl and yesterday and today I got further proof as to why I dig him.
Surprise #1: His best friend is getting married on New Year's Eve. He never mentioned taking a date or having to escort anyone. I assumed I wasn't going, which was fine because I don't even really know the bride and groom and the wedding was planned before I even met him. But I was slightly peeved that I would not have a guaranteed NYE kiss. Yesterday he asked me to go with him :) I will get my kiss afterall. Now the dress hunt begins...
Suprise #2: It's 2:15PM at work today. I'm working along like a good worker bee, when a delivery man comes into the office with flowers. I just assume they aren't for me and go back to work. But I was wrong. They were for me :) No one has ever sent me flowers at work. How can I be mean to a guy who is so thoughtful and considerate? I can't. Ever. I'm swooning.
Which is why I hate myself for being stupid and trying to push him to see how far he'll go. A very wise woman once said something along the lines of, "Don't mess things up by being insecure."
Wednesday night I pushed. For someone reason I decided to pick a small fight, which escalated into something more intense and I said slightly bitchy things. I was simply sad that he has been away on business and is going to a bachelor party this weekend in New Jersey. We all know that bachelor parties can quickly turn crazy (hello Mario Lopez?!?). However, the emotion I expressed was not sadness - it came out as insecurity. I don't know why I create this drama. Not to go all Carrie Bradshaw on you all (but it's so applicable right now), do we need drama to make a relationship work?
I've learned that in this case no. I found a wonderful guy who cares about me and knows when to say he's sorry. I also need to remember that I need to say sorry and check myself whenever I feel an insecure fit coming on. I'm a lucky girl and yesterday and today I got further proof as to why I dig him.
Surprise #1: His best friend is getting married on New Year's Eve. He never mentioned taking a date or having to escort anyone. I assumed I wasn't going, which was fine because I don't even really know the bride and groom and the wedding was planned before I even met him. But I was slightly peeved that I would not have a guaranteed NYE kiss. Yesterday he asked me to go with him :) I will get my kiss afterall. Now the dress hunt begins...
Suprise #2: It's 2:15PM at work today. I'm working along like a good worker bee, when a delivery man comes into the office with flowers. I just assume they aren't for me and go back to work. But I was wrong. They were for me :) No one has ever sent me flowers at work. How can I be mean to a guy who is so thoughtful and considerate? I can't. Ever. I'm swooning.
posted by VP of Dior at 3:30 PM
Oh my goodness! The flowers!! They are beautiful. Wow, and a NYE kiss!!! How exciting! Congrats.
mappyb - thank you for visiting my blog!
Love them!!! You definately have some things to smile about.
I too sometimes create drama (albeit unkowingly) in my relationship because I think it should be there.
I am learning that it's ok if it's not there, and that actually is a positive.
YAY!!! so excited for you.
How about the week of the 12th...are you free? We should get together..or go dress shopping that weekend :-)
Awww....
Yeah I remember you telling me about that - it's OK it happens and you were intoxicated.
UM, are you coming out with me tonight?
Sounds like you got a good guy there. I too have many moments of insecurity and drama creation. I think in a good relationship the guy will meet you in the middle and will put up with about half of it. So you don't have to morph into Miss Super Secure Woman or throw *all* the drama out the window, just half of it :-).
Wow. That's sweet!
Yeah I wouldn't worry too much about the insecure freak out. We all get them every now and then. I really think guys are just kind of used to it.
aww! That's so awesome. Love those pleasant surprises. :)
Swoon, indeed.
And as for that wise woman... I could have used her advice a few weeks ago... damn! :)
DJ - I like the way you put that!
Dress Update: I fell in love with 2 dresses at Ann Taylor (gasp!!!). One is a strapless red satin and the other is a sweetheart neckline gold lace overlay. Both cocktail/tea length.
Naturally I bought both, with the intention of getting some second opinions and then returning one. I might take pics and have my fellow bloggers vote. Details to come.
Heya,
I have to quit because i ain't got no camera phone or camera because both were stolen!! So I will be back later, but still continue to visit. It sucks, maybe I will hurry it up and get a new camera and continue posting. But most def., keep in touch and of course lucky you!!
Damn VP. We're headed in different relationship directions. That said, Malibu Ken sounds like a catch! Nice flowers :)
Hey darlin...
Drop me a line, question for you...
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ps- you are fabulous!
Just remember the old fashion adage: You have to wear red, you can't let it wear you. Lovely flowers.